Confidence is
a key theme weaving its way throughout my book. Confidence not only allows us
to express our own unique personalities, but it also influences the way in
which we communicate and interact with the external world.
How we feel
about ourselves internally will reflect and manifest externally. However, we
can influence our confidence by building a more positive image about ourselves
from the outside in. As children we have a natural ease with ourselves.
However, the process of socialization often robs us of our innate confidence.
It takes a
conscious effort to rediscover our lost confidence. The starting point is to
become aware of our internal chatter and the comments we make in relation to
ourselves on a daily basis. Phrases such as: “I’m no good at that” (whatever
“that” means to you), “I can’t do that”, “I’m too old to wear that, begin
that”, etc.” is common to the majority of us.
Given the
theme of my book as well as my styling business, you would imagine that I passionately
believe that how we physically turn up in the world goes a long way to boost
our confidence. As an example, so many older women give up on themselves and
reduce or stop using makeup altogether. Applying makeup is even more important
now than what it was in our younger days.
Not only is
makeup is a great way to enhance our attributes and reduce or hide areas we are
not too happy with, it also goes a long way in giving us confidence in our
appearance. By giving up on makeup we collude with the external world that we
become invisible as we get older. This is not true, and we should not behave as
though it is!
We also
hugely underestimate the power of colour on our moods and emotions, whether
that is reflected in the makeup we use to enhance and add to our skin colour or
the colour of the garments we wear. If you feel you have become invisible, take
a long hard look at your wardrobe and the colours, or lack of it, that is
reflected back to you.
Just one
accessory, whether it is a piece of jewellery, a scarf or a lovely colour
lipstick that blends with your skin tone, will go a long way in boosting your
confidence and how you feel about yourself. This is not frivolous indulgence
but a wonderful source of personal expression!
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