FRIENDSHIP AND SOLITUDE

The last year has certainly challenged all of us to become more comfortable with our own company as we were forced to remain in our own homes and immediate environments for long periods of time. Thankfully technology has allowed us to continue interacting with friends, family and colleagues.

The last year would not only have taught us the value of our friendships, but possibly also given us the time and space to reflect on our relationship with ourselves. I’m a firm believer that the relationship we have with ourselves, determine the quality of all the other relationships.

Apart from the expectations we have of friendship such as attachment, affection, loyalty, mutual respect and goodwill, true friendship is a relationship that is able to survive the test of time and above all remain unconditional. A healthy relationship is rarely one sided and requires two individuals who make the effort to sustain and build on the relationship. It is the willingness to be there for someone else when the chips are down. The last year would certainly have tested relationships to the limit.

Sharing companionship and support is not only limited to human beings. I know many people would have discovered the joys of pet ownership over the last year. Pets abundantly offer continuous unconditional love and unwavering companionship. In many instances they may have been the only companion some people would have had during the lockdown.

We often pity those that either live on their own or choose to be on their own. We immediately imagine that they are lonely. This is not necessarily true. I for one cherish my times on my own for reflection, planning, creating or being out in nature and enjoying the natural world. On the other hand, I also love the company of stimulating conversation with the right people.

I have thoroughly enjoyed the many projects I have been involved with over the last year and to me the lockdown was in many ways a blessing and a gift. It has allowed me to complete H.A.G.S. with Attitude and rediscover my love of fashion and design.

I invite you to reflect on your experiences of lockdown and identify the positives you may not otherwise have enjoyed or discovered. Be sure to take these with you when we once again emerge into the world.

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