When the
ideas for H.A.G.S. with Attitude germinated in my mind, the title of the book
had not yet emerged. However, I wanted the title to instantly capture the
attention, whilst at the same time reflect the key themes of the book.
When we are
able to travel, I live part of the year in the South of France. I have joined a
closed Facebook group of women with approximately 2,000 members and based in
that part of France. As with any group, there were some lovely women who
regularly organised events and shared useful information. As I did not live in
France all year round, it was a beneficial source of local knowledge.
As a potential
target audience, I thought they would be an ideal group with whom to share my
initial thoughts of my proposed book and solicit some feedback to a possible
title. I envisaged their feedback to help me to understand what my ideal reader
would be interested in.
As an
academic I have been used to receiving some damning feedback from reviewers,
picked myself up and implemented the changes I agreed with and challenged those
with which I disagreed. I was however unprepared for the barrage of verbal
abuse from many of the women in this group. I was totally vilified! They did
not take kindly to be referred to as hags.
Their
response did knock my confidence for a while, but once I picked myself up and
dusted off my dented self-esteem, I started thinking and analysing their
reactions. I concluded that fairy tales and stories are awash with images and
tales of the embittered older women, labelled as hags. As a group of older
women, it brought them up close to their fears of getting older and being
labelled a hag.
My chapter on
fairy tales and stories was a direct result of their responses and sets out to
put the record straight as to the true meaning of hags. In ancient times hags
were the holy ones and revered for their wisdom and knowledge of natural
medicines. It motivated me to reinstate the true meaning of hags.
As if often
the case, their response gave rise to my research on stories and narratives and
how these are deeply imbedded in our identities and how we see ourselves. These
powerful stories also continue to influence how society, and the beauty
industry in particular, view older women.
You will know
from reading my book that I passionately believe we as a group of older women,
need to challenge these outdate stereotypes wherever we encounter them.
Angélique
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